Hi,
要瞭解世上各式人事物，最大的障礙，不是什麼，只是自己；不瞭解自己，看到的東西，全被自己蒙蔽歪曲，那又焉能看清世事呢？
下列五點，只是小弟的一點愚見，希望能有助大家多瞭解自己一點。
1. 你的推動：什麼能鼓勵你、推動你。
2. 你的天份：你能無需什麼鍛練，便能做得很好的事情。
3. 你的興趣：做什麼你會特別享受，就算它會令你感到疲倦。
4. 你的惡習：習慣是有目的的，就是能滿足你一些未能滿足的需要，瞭解習慣，就能知道自己底下根本的缺乏。
5. 你的朋友：物以類聚，你的朋友，反映著你自己！
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
P.S. 原文刊登於Excel Your Life Newsletter 2010年4月號
Keith To's Ideas & Thoughts on NLP, Hypnosis, Coaching, Facilitation, Personal and Business Development. These seem to be nothing related. But from a Systemic Thinking perspective, they share similar nature and processes. 陶兆輝對身心語言程序學、催眠治療學、教練學、輔引學、個人發展及商業發展的純個人看法；它們看似毫不相關，但當你從合整式思維角度來看，它們卻擁有相近的性質及過程；我將每隔數天不斷加入新的文章, 內容絕不敢認為是肯定正確, 旨在拋磚引玉而矣。 (All articles copyrighted by Keith To)
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2010/07/19
2010/02/05
我的觀點：替通哥不值！
Hi,
近日人人都說哨牙通，我也不甘寂莫，多加一插！
不過小弟並非在插通哥，而是插一插我們的執法機關。
通哥的而且確乞了不少的人憎，但乞人憎還乞人憎，通哥犯的又不是殺人放火(雖然可能比殺人放火更差)，亦不見得有什麼暴力傾向，拉他也不需動用手銬吧？
還有，當年他的好朋友也是因為相同罪名而被捕，但待遇則好得多，她是在警方預先通知下，自行到警署協助調查，而不是被高調地鎖人做騷。
奇怪的是，這麼的不公平，但卻有這麼多人，為通哥被捕而開心得中六合彩一樣！
你在同情通哥？非也，只是在想，小弟人盡皆知衰格乞人憎，萬一將來真的衰左，又或因『誤會』而遭拘捕，豈非『他朝君體也相同』？！
執法機關的高級同志，消解民憤是好事，但還是一視同人好一點！(為什麼是高級同志？因為我怎也不相信這會是前線同志的決定！)
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
近日人人都說哨牙通，我也不甘寂莫，多加一插！
不過小弟並非在插通哥，而是插一插我們的執法機關。
通哥的而且確乞了不少的人憎，但乞人憎還乞人憎，通哥犯的又不是殺人放火(雖然可能比殺人放火更差)，亦不見得有什麼暴力傾向，拉他也不需動用手銬吧？
還有，當年他的好朋友也是因為相同罪名而被捕，但待遇則好得多，她是在警方預先通知下，自行到警署協助調查，而不是被高調地鎖人做騷。
奇怪的是，這麼的不公平，但卻有這麼多人，為通哥被捕而開心得中六合彩一樣！
你在同情通哥？非也，只是在想，小弟人盡皆知衰格乞人憎，萬一將來真的衰左，又或因『誤會』而遭拘捕，豈非『他朝君體也相同』？！
執法機關的高級同志，消解民憤是好事，但還是一視同人好一點！(為什麼是高級同志？因為我怎也不相信這會是前線同志的決定！)
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
2009/07/29
我的觀點: 人家這樣說！
Hi,
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當聽見別人怎麼說時，就跟著依樣胡蘆地怎麼說，想也不想那是真確還是虛構，越多人怎樣說，就越說得興起！
初時還知道自己是在人云亦云，但只是想多點話題而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來不用思想，人說我說是那麼方便；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在人云亦云，真的相信自己談的是真理，自己還很有真知灼見呢，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當聽見別人怎麼說時，就跟著依樣胡蘆地怎麼說，想也不想那是真確還是虛構，越多人怎樣說，就越說得興起！
初時還知道自己是在人云亦云，但只是想多點話題而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來不用思想，人說我說是那麼方便；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在人云亦云，真的相信自己談的是真理，自己還很有真知灼見呢，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
2009/06/28
Coaching: Coaching is about Discovery Part 6 - Blindspots Formation Mechanisms
Hi,
This is Part 6 of this Coaching is about Discovery Series.
In this article, we are going to discuss various mechanisms of our mental blindspots formation.
Blindspots are the ideas/thoughts/perceptions which situated out of our current awareness. They are not just anything that we do not know. They are what we do not know we do not know. This double-unawareness paralyzes our urge to search for extra information.
What causes these Double-Unawareness? There are 5 major causes.
1. Reacting instead of Responding. When we are reacting to the situation, we are not using the most sophisticated part of our brain, the neo-cortex, which is responsible for our rational thinking. We react from the more primitive reptilian brain and the limbus brain. We are reacting to our fear, anger and other emotions. We are not rational at all!
2. Missing Information. There are so much information out there. We cannot process all the information. If the world is as slow as in the far past, we can absorb and handle them bit by bit. However, we do not have such luxury in today's super-fast paced, ever-changing world. The missed information becomes our blindspots.
3. False Assumptions. What helps us deciding taking in what information and discarding the others? Our assumptions (or our Filters in NLP)! Assumption and knowledge refers to the same thing. The only difference is the former is not matching the Reality while the latter one is. Both are assisting us to make faster decisions while the former causes us problems and the latter leads us to solutions.
4. The Bigger World. Everything is inter-related. There is no such thing as "individual case". People, scenarios and things are affecting each others. It is difficult to see the Bigger Picture and it is even impossible to see the Whole Picture. Everything outside our current perceived picture is our blindspots!
5. The World is Changing. No matter the speed is slow in the past or fast in today, the world is changing! We are always just in one single point in time. It is too easy to forget or to miss in all other points in the past. It is even more impossible to consider accurately the future. These are the blindspots in the 4th dimension.
A coach's job is to encourage awareness of clients' blindspots. The more they can perceive and consider, the better will be their decisions.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
P.S. You can find more of my ideas on blindspots from my new book, 盲點心理學 (co-authored with John Lau, in Chinese)
This is Part 6 of this Coaching is about Discovery Series.
In this article, we are going to discuss various mechanisms of our mental blindspots formation.
Blindspots are the ideas/thoughts/perceptions which situated out of our current awareness. They are not just anything that we do not know. They are what we do not know we do not know. This double-unawareness paralyzes our urge to search for extra information.
What causes these Double-Unawareness? There are 5 major causes.
1. Reacting instead of Responding. When we are reacting to the situation, we are not using the most sophisticated part of our brain, the neo-cortex, which is responsible for our rational thinking. We react from the more primitive reptilian brain and the limbus brain. We are reacting to our fear, anger and other emotions. We are not rational at all!
2. Missing Information. There are so much information out there. We cannot process all the information. If the world is as slow as in the far past, we can absorb and handle them bit by bit. However, we do not have such luxury in today's super-fast paced, ever-changing world. The missed information becomes our blindspots.
3. False Assumptions. What helps us deciding taking in what information and discarding the others? Our assumptions (or our Filters in NLP)! Assumption and knowledge refers to the same thing. The only difference is the former is not matching the Reality while the latter one is. Both are assisting us to make faster decisions while the former causes us problems and the latter leads us to solutions.
4. The Bigger World. Everything is inter-related. There is no such thing as "individual case". People, scenarios and things are affecting each others. It is difficult to see the Bigger Picture and it is even impossible to see the Whole Picture. Everything outside our current perceived picture is our blindspots!
5. The World is Changing. No matter the speed is slow in the past or fast in today, the world is changing! We are always just in one single point in time. It is too easy to forget or to miss in all other points in the past. It is even more impossible to consider accurately the future. These are the blindspots in the 4th dimension.
A coach's job is to encourage awareness of clients' blindspots. The more they can perceive and consider, the better will be their decisions.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
P.S. You can find more of my ideas on blindspots from my new book, 盲點心理學 (co-authored with John Lau, in Chinese)
2009/05/24
我的觀點: 我走在前端！
Hi,
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到當時流行的東西時，就會談它、想它、做它，然後當另一樣東西流行時，就會改為談它、想它、做它！
初時還知道自己是在跟風，不過只是想跟上潮流、不想落後而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來談人人在談的、想人人在想的、做人人在做的，是那麼令人更易接受自己，那麼像是走在時代的前端；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在跟風，真的相信自己正在談、想、做最正確的事情，自己真的是在領先人家，他人跟我談、想、做的不一樣時，還敢無知地罵人落伍，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到當時流行的東西時，就會談它、想它、做它，然後當另一樣東西流行時，就會改為談它、想它、做它！
初時還知道自己是在跟風，不過只是想跟上潮流、不想落後而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來談人人在談的、想人人在想的、做人人在做的，是那麼令人更易接受自己，那麼像是走在時代的前端；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在跟風，真的相信自己正在談、想、做最正確的事情，自己真的是在領先人家，他人跟我談、想、做的不一樣時，還敢無知地罵人落伍，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
2009/05/23
我的觀點: 都是他的錯！
Hi,
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到不合意的事情時，就先找別人有什麼錯，然後把所有責任全推在他人身上，自己則一干二淨，錯是別人，別人負我，我沒問題！
初時還知道自己不是在推卸，只是想感覺良好一點而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來推卸責任是那麼美妙，自己永不用面對；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在推卸，真的相信錯在他人，自己一點問題也沒有，還敢厚顏無恥的罵人，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Remark: Originally written for Excel Your Life Newsletter on May 20 2009
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到不合意的事情時，就先找別人有什麼錯，然後把所有責任全推在他人身上，自己則一干二淨，錯是別人，別人負我，我沒問題！
初時還知道自己不是在推卸，只是想感覺良好一點而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來推卸責任是那麼美妙，自己永不用面對；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在推卸，真的相信錯在他人，自己一點問題也沒有，還敢厚顏無恥的罵人，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Remark: Originally written for Excel Your Life Newsletter on May 20 2009
我的觀點: 他是這種人！
Hi,
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到一個人時，不論他做了，或是沒做了些什麼事情，就會依據直覺，不其然地把他當作是屬於某一種人，然後對號入座，不管他有做了還是沒做，那種人就會做那種事！
初時還知道自己可能是在標籤別人，但也只是為了方便認識理解他人；後來慢慢就發現這種方法簡單直接，很方便呢！再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在標籤了，真的相信什麼樣的人，自然會做什麼樣的事，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當遇到一個人時，不論他做了，或是沒做了些什麼事情，就會依據直覺，不其然地把他當作是屬於某一種人，然後對號入座，不管他有做了還是沒做，那種人就會做那種事！
初時還知道自己可能是在標籤別人，但也只是為了方便認識理解他人；後來慢慢就發現這種方法簡單直接，很方便呢！再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在標籤了，真的相信什麼樣的人，自然會做什麼樣的事，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
2009/05/21
我的觀點: 肯定有陰謀！
Hi,
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當別人不論做了些什麼事情，就先猜度他的背後意圖，他肯定是有原因才這樣做的，沒理由沒有陰謀！
初時還知道自己可能是在猜度別人，但目的也只是想發現真相、免遭他人愚昧而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來任何人，做任何事皆另有原因，自己才不會那樣卑鄙；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在猜度了，真的相信每個人也是自私自利、每件事後面也有自私的原因，自己卻是最偉大的一個，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
小弟跟很多人一樣，有著同一個壞習慣，就是當別人不論做了些什麼事情，就先猜度他的背後意圖，他肯定是有原因才這樣做的，沒理由沒有陰謀！
初時還知道自己可能是在猜度別人，但目的也只是想發現真相、免遭他人愚昧而矣；後來慢慢就發現原來任何人，做任何事皆另有原因，自己才不會那樣卑鄙；再後來竟然已經不再感到自己在猜度了，真的相信每個人也是自私自利、每件事後面也有自私的原因，自己卻是最偉大的一個，無藥可救了。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
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